Military Girlfriend's Handbook

Military Girlfriend Handbook
1. Don't count on anything!
2. Don't listen to ANYONE on the outside. All you will get is negative remarks, which will make things harder for you to deal with.
3. When he becomes stubborn and a royal pain in the butt, just remind yourself he's probably had a bad day, and being away from you is hard on him too. So just let him rant and don’t take it personal.
4. When you’re down, treat yourself.
5. Learn how to listen if you don’t know how! He will need you, you will be the one he comes to when he needs to complain, but don’t complain back...that is what the USMC Girlfriends/Fiancées/ Wife’s are for! This is a hard time for our men and they NEED us much more than sometimes they think they do!
6. Love your Marine, be truthful, and reassure him, even if he is deployed he'll have someone to come back to!
7. He will try to pull away at some point. Whether directly telling you to move on, not wait for him or just becoming distant. It's a way they try of dealing, stick with him cause he really does want (and need) you there.
8. When he is away for a long time, or even just a couple hours away, write a lot of letters! Communication is key to a relationship.
9. Some of his friends will probably be morons - expect this.
10. You aren’t the only woman in his life (his mom misses and loves him too!) so make sure she is updated on what is going on with him.
11. He needs to feel important so don't hold back on the compliments - remind him how proud you are of what he does. (Tell him how attractive you think he is when wearing his desert cami's, dress blues ect.)
12. Chances are they won't call when they say they will (that especially applies for deployed!).
13. Don't buy that nonrefundable airplane ticket too early.
14. When eating with a Marine you either finish your "chow" in 15 minutes or less or be stared at until you are finished.
15. Never take one single minute with them for granted. Live each day with them like it’s the last one you'll have for a while, because with the Marine Corps, it just might be!
16. Take lots of pictures, so you can remember what each other looks like!
17. Don't even TRY to compare your Marine to ordinary men. You can no longer complain about broken plans, that phone call you were supposed to get but didn't, missed birthdays and anniversaries, his snoring (hey, at least he's sleeping BESIDE you), spending more time with "the boys" than you, etc., etc., etc...
18. Always look on the bright side of things. How many of your gal-pals get their first encounter, first date, first kiss from their men over and over again??
19. Gotta be able to keep up with your man. We give our Marines a whole new meaning of PT =)
20. Even if he says he will, he probably won't. Maybe really means probably not OR probably not when he said he would (example: "I might be able to call you tomorrow" but he can't find the time to call until a week later or "I might be able to come home next month for a week"...that might turn into 2 weeks)
21. Being a Marine's girlfriend/fiancée/wife is the toughest job in the corps. You have to deal with stress similar to the wives, without the promise of forever or the benefits and support they get.
22. We find ourselves using military lingo. "I'm gonna go get my room squared away", "It's chow time", or using military time
23. Patience is the biggest key to making the relationship work...you have to wait a lot but in the end, waiting is what made it all worthwhile.




I found this online, in the form of a jpeg. I thought it was cute and totally accurate. Number 22, I use military time quite often now and my friends are like, "WTF?" I find myself having to correct this more and more often.

My own additions:
And do always tell him how proud you are and remind him that there is no other guy on the planet that could even compare. Even if you feel like he knows it, tell him how glad you are that he's your boufriend, and that you would never betray his trust. Things like this can really make him feel more confident about the relationship.

Why?

Well, everyone knows that the life of anyone in the armed forces is hard. What many people fail to think about, are the lives of those that support the men (and women) serving our country. There's so many difficulties we face as significant others of those in service. Military wives have it hard, that's completely true. But what about the girlfriends? We have the same hardships as the military spouses. But we get through these hardships without the garuntee of forever. Without the benifits and support systems that have been set up for the spouses of those in the armed forces. So this blog will chronicle the day to day life of a Marine's Girlfriend. I saw a icon that said "Being a Marine's Girlfriend is my Super Power." That's a nice way of saying that it's hard, and we who can tolerate it and deal with all the uncertainties are special indeed. I love my Marine, and I would never give him up for anything. But let's be honest, how many of us have questioned what we're doing in a relationship that is so uncertain? If you say that you haven't you're lying to yourself. At the end of the day, how much we love our Marines is what saves us. This blog will include my day to day feelings, and interesting/amusing findings from across the internet.